The Marriage Counselor’s Secret Life – New Release

The Marriage Counselor’s Secret Life – New Release.

The release of a new novel deserves some show and tell, especially when it is about a marriage counselor having marital problems.


I Love me Like Crazy

Dat be me

Let’s get crazy! A good combination of words turned to song by, Prince. The man seemed insane, but insane seem to have its place in life. Especially these days with everyone filing in line to fulfill the status quo. Hate that dam word and the people that try to link everyone, including me, into some cluster of people. My ego says I am not like anyone else. My ego is right and the census, or con-census is wrong; con being the operative word here.

I am like others in that I have two legs, two arms, and blah blah blah, figure the rest out. But I, like most have my,own identity other than the assigned “Government” marker. And I like, ehem, LOVE me. Truth be told I really really love me.

And as I got myself to write this crazy post I started realizing how good I feel typing it. Crazy but effective. So let’s get crazy, let’s get nuts. If you love yourself show it. It is the beginning of love no.



Getting Mr Right

Mr Right could be right next to you and you don't see

As promised I am doing one for the ladies. Title says it all. So let’s get to it. As it is I am amazed every time I hear women say they have hard time getting the right guy. So I’m giving you a road-map. Trust me when I tell you there is no magic formula. So lets begin. How does a woman find Mr. right?…

Go outside. Yes that’s it. Chances are if you are interested in a guy he is interested in you; along with every other woman he sees. Kidding. But the reality is it is much easier to attract a man. When we see a woman there is a vibe we pick up. Personally, women are the most amazing thing to me, love ya’ll no lie.

If you’re dressing skimpily, flattering a guy, going looking, hitting on, or any number of things you’re wasting your time. It doesn’t take all that effort… Read the last two sentences

Be natural

of the last paragraph again.

Truth is, men are mesmerized by women, actually these days some women are mesmerized by women. Women have a natural magnetism that captures men. To find Mr right you only need to take your time and assess the ones that come your way. Going after a guy you like guarantees a 99% relationship failure rate, if it is all about sex, then chase all you want.

There really is not magic pill to attract men. As a woman, men are automatically drawn to you. Use that to choose the one that’s right for you.
In that rare case where you chase, capture, and hogtie a man that will remain faithful, nice work. But to be honest, just stop trying and start paying attention. You could be in love real soon.


Being a man ~ 1

She’s bossy, she’s pushy, she’s a bitch all the time. In truth she wants you to stand up to her. You might be there shaking your head. You might have even called me a liar being that you had the worst argument with your girl /wife tonight, yesterday, or some other day. But it’s true. Let me give you some advice.

The real truth is no woman wants to be with a man she can walk all over. Doesn’t matter how domineering she seems to be. That doesn’t mean putting your hands on the woman either. It just means standing up for yourself a little. Backing down has its benefits, no doubt. But you have to know the balance. And where the balance lies is the point when you turn around and tell her to BTFU… No joke.

I can see your head spinning and you’re laughing right now if you understand what that syntax means. But it doesn’t work all the time because she is actually right sometimes. The fact that a woman is arguing beyond the point when she should have stopped should tell you that you need to stop and reassess your own position. As I said, got to have a good balance.

Your relationship can benefit greatly from you growing a pair even if you’re one of those really passive people. Try it and see. If you’re one of those men who let his woman walk all over him, tone her down a bit next time you argue. Be strong and firm with your tone. Make direct eye contact and be mentally hood. If you know you’re right let her know you’re right. Now I’m going to leave it right there just in case, not trying to get anyone in trouble.

Turn a bad date Into a Fun date

Often hear how bad dates were and wondered why. I observed and I was laughing hard but crying inside. All I know is these were two people who didn’t belong in the same country much-less with each other. They were both lazy and had no imagination. But the theme both played was that they were very social and spontaneous. Um… Earth to… Oh never mind.. You just failed, end of story.

Bad dates are only bad because we don’t try. Most people will lie during the initial meeting or setup. That’s the mentality you should adopt when going on a date. Don’t walk in expecting the perfect end to a perfect day. Just walk in expecting to have fun. Makes life a lot easier at the end of the day. Could have helped the afore-mentioned story too. But they were doomed because neither was as social as they claimed to be. Granted, they did talk A LOT, but social they were not.

For one thing: Your imagination in a botched date is your greatest asset not the planned call. Just because you do not like the person does not mean they can’t be a little more than a laughing stock. Take this into account. You get out of a date by having someone call you and you miss out on a potential connection or friend. I am by no means saying that some times you do not need it. I’m just saying sometimes it is best to follow through with a bad date… Sometimes.

You did take the time to set up the date. And you did waste time getting dressed and went out. Might as well enjoy it. Try to keep the conversation as friendly as possible. Keep the touching to a bare minimum if at all. Focus on the fun you’re having or trying to have. I would suggest that all blind dates be something active pool, a walk in a public place, a library (Could always use a book as distraction or slap-tool), or any other public place that offers you some sanity just in case.

Forced laughter does no happy make. Sounded cool in my head. While you’re waiting for that “rescue me call” don’t do that loud obnoxious laugh. I’m sure it’s irritating enough sitting there watching you check your phone a million times. At least look at the other person’s cheek if not eyes. By the way, it is easier to look a person in the eyes when you’re not into them. Just saying.

Sorry for this waste of brain space but my dating content was looking real lonely.